Violence Against Women Caused By…Booze Alone, Apparently
Posted by Leah on November 4, 2008
This piece in The Age caught my eye this fine Melbourne Cup Day morning. It’s good that violence against women is at least being discussed in the press, but I take issue with the writer’s assertion that ‘The combination of a public holiday, too much to drink, gambling and warm weather is a volatile cocktail that inevitably leads to an increase in domestic violence’.
Summer heat, booze, arguments and gambling losses are presented as the only causes of domestic violence – at no point is sexism or disrespect (and hatred) for women mentioned as a cause.
When a man hits his partner, at some level he thinks it is acceptable. Most men who hit their partners do not regularly hit other people – their boss or friends for example (obviously some do – I’m talking about ‘most’). They CAN control their anger when they choose to. Hitting their partner is a clear indication that, on some level, they think it’s an acceptable action. This incredible disrespect for the rights of their partners is completely ignored in the article.
I absolutely agree that booze, heat and gambling are contributing factors – BUT, disrespect for the rights of one’s partner is THE central cause which is sadly ignored by much mainstream media. This thinking is based on the misguided notion that men cannot control themselves – the same argument used to defend rape. And it’s bullshit – not to mention also insulting to men. Men control their negative desires all the time – like everyone else – and when they hit or rape someone, they choose to do it and should be held responsible for their actions, not have it excused because of the weather, gambling or alchohol.