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The Twenty-Eighth Down Under Feminists Carnival

Posted by caitlinate on September 4, 2010

Oh my gawd, hi everyone. So this is the first time I’ve done a blog carnival and I put my hand up for it 6 months ago not realising that this was going to be like the busiest two or three weeks I would be having all year. So! There is no theme and things might be organised a little incoherently but I hope I’ve done a good job and you like…

WELCOME to the 28th Down Under Feminists Carnival!

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Love & Marriage… Don’t Go Together Like A Horse & Carriage

Posted by caitlinate on September 16, 2009

So, I know it’s lazy to just post a link and say ‘go look here’ but I think this piece by Catherine Deveny in the Sydney Morning Herald today is a worthy excuse for such an indolent act. I also think it’s a good kick off for a fun TDC discussion about marriage and it’s place and purpose in our current day and age.

The article begins:

I AM against gay marriage. I’m against straight marriage. I’m against marriage full stop. Why are we hanging on to this relic of an anachronistic system (which still reeks of misogyny and bigotry), established so men could own women to ensure their estates and titles were passed on to their kids – sorry, their sons? Time to ditch it.

Go read!

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Why Do Brides Wear White? So They Match The Kitchen Appliances!

Posted by Clem Bastow on September 12, 2008

Traditionally, the title of this post has always been (to me) little more than the gag on an awesomely awful stubby-holder I picked up in South Australia many moons ago – but today, it’s the advertising ethos of Australian mega retailer Harvey Norman!

To wit, the “Harvey Norman Promotion” on Pages 54 – 57 of today’s Who Weekly; here’s a sample:

The intro says, “Did somebody say presents? Harvey Norman has Australia’s largest biggest range of whitegoods and appliances, so you can be on the road to domestic bliss in no time.”

So, just tallying up what’s wrong with this feature:

  1. The idea of a “white wedding” in the first place
  2. The idea of a wedding being an excuse to grab as many expensive gifts as possible
  3. The notion that women who marry are simply heading down the road to being good housewives (i.e. “domestic bliss”)
  4. The notion that whitegoods and appliances are solely a woman’s domain
  5. The positioning of the “bride” as little more than another “whitegood”

Have I missed anything?

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Behind Every Good Man…

Posted by Rhiana Whitson on July 19, 2008

Did anyone else find the “exclusive” cover story in today’s Age more than a little cringeworthy? I certainly did…

“Tour of duty: Cadel’s wife endures an anxious cycle of highs and lows”

Yes I know it is the Tour de France… and perhaps Lane thought it would be interesting to tackle the race from a ‘different’ more ‘human’ angle by interviewing Australian cyclist, Cadel Evans wife, Chiara Passerini… BUT really, puhlease… aside from this story being less than front page newsworthy… It is a shame that in a rare occasion that women in sport actually appear on the front cover of any major newspaper (or throughout) we are presented not with an actual woman excelling in sport BUT an attractive WIFE of a man excelling in sport.

Whilst it is very sweet to read about Chiara Passerini expressing her concerns for her husbands well being in what can apparently be a very dangerous race, I feel that this type of article only acts to reinforce the age-old stereotype of the ‘good’ woman/wife behind the ‘GREAT’ man.

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Wedding Dress “Try-On” Fees: Intellectual Property Protection, Or Just Another Way To Make Brides Pay?

Posted by Clem Bastow on June 30, 2008

An interesting trend is emerging (via a trickle-down effect from overseas) in the booming Australian bridal industry: wedding dress retailers and designers are starting to charge brides-to-be for the privilege of trying on a few gowns.

Their word is that this is as much about the designers’ intellectual property as it is anything else – and, in some respects, that’s a compelling argument. In the haute couture end of bridal fashion, less reputable designers will send lackeys posing as blushing brides to their competitors salons, where they’ll try on a few while taking happy snaps on camera phones “so I can show the bridesmaids”; the photos are then shipped back to the head seamstress and an exclusive, one-off dress suddenly appears in multiples on the racks at a competing ready-to-wear store.

Designer Alex Perry already charges $350 for a two-visit consultation with women interested in buying one of his haute couture wedding creations, which are priced from $8000.

He said the charge, which was deducted from a purchase, was a good way to determine if they were serious about buying.

“It deters people who just want to come and pick my brain,” he said.

“I’m at that stage in my career when it’s fine if you do that, but you’re going to have to pay me for it.”

That’s fair enough – an enormous amount of time, effort and workmanship goes into Perry’s gowns, and the same goes for his peers in the higher-end of bridal couture (you know, the dresses that have the ominous “Price On Application” in their style notes in bridal magazines). Most artisans working on a big job – portrait artists, architects, and so on – secure a deposit to make the ‘contract’ binding.

But what concerns me about this trend is that in every other instance – i.e. where actual custom-made gowns aren’t involved (because that’s the thing about couture/made-to-order dresses – you can’t go try it on for fun, because it doesn’t exist yet!) – this seems to be an opportunity for mass market bridal salons to hit average brides-to-be where it hurts: in the bank account.

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Corinne Grant On Polyandry

Posted by Clem Bastow on June 29, 2008

Polygamy is one of those topics of conversation that everyone likes to have an opinion about, but that – thanks in no small part, I’m sure, to the popularity of Big Love – a lot of people (mostly men) secretly like the idea of. One of those people is Sheik Khalil Chami of the Islamic Welfare Centre, who thinks that polygamy and polygamous relationships should be made a-okay in Australia.

Fortunately we have Corinne Grant on hand at The Age to set everyone straight about why polygamous relationships aren’t so crash hot. Only rather than going on a page-long tirade at the end of which Bill Paxton’s sunny backyard kinda looks rather nice, she harnesses the power of funny and makes you laugh until you cry “NO WAY IN HELL!”, and broadsides a relationship/gender stereotype or fifty in the process:

Firstly, chicks have become more and more demanding since feminism came along and the poor guys are having a hard time meeting all of our demands. Maybe it’s time we gave them a break and learnt to spread our uppity ways over a broader base. So, I’d like 15 husbands, please. I’ll have one who remembers my name. I’ll have another one who remembers my birthday. I’ll have one who reads the care instructions on my smalls before throwing them in the washing machine and I’ll have one that calls when he says he will. The other 11 can just sit around with their shirts off looking pretty.


The Attorney-General, Robert McClelland, has said that polygamy will remain outside the law in Australia. I am disappointed and I respectfully ask him to reconsider. He could at least look at implementing something like an exchange policy on husbands, much like they have in car dealerships. I would be far more willing to get married if I knew that I could trade up every two years. If my bloke stopped treating me well or had an affair, it wouldn’t matter. In another few months I would have a brand new one and we could spend the next couple of years blissfully tearing apart each other’s self-esteem and trust. Now that’s true romance.

Anyone feel like grabbing a few extra wives to go now? Or even getting married in the first place?? Christopher Hitchens take note.

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Mariah Carey And Nick Cannon Marked For Death (Of Their Relationship)

Posted by Clem Bastow on June 25, 2008

Not long after they actually tied the knot, the bets are already being placed on whether or not Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon will break up. Not only that, but they’ll break up within six months! Hold onto your butts! So sayeth Life & Style Weekly, via BANG! Showbiz, via The Age (is your head spinning yet?):

The source told Life and Style Weekly magazine: “I give the marriage six months, tops. I can’t see it lasting.

“Nick does whatever Mariah wants him to – he’s like her puppy. It seems like he spends more time in the stores with Mariah’s credit card than he does with Mariah herself.

Mariah’s assistants and friends call him ‘Whipped Nick’ behind his back.
They have little respect for him because he won’t stand up for himself.”

Stand up for himself against what – his wife who wants to spoil him rotten? God save the poor dude.

It strikes me that there are many subtle things at play here beyond the simple drive for gossip magazine sales, most glaringly the fact that Mariah is older than Nick (eleven years older, shock horror!), and the fact that Mariah is more successful than Nick. And whether or not he really is spending more time in the stores with her credit card than with her (everyone conveniently likes to forget that men can be gold diggers, too), it seems the media is still veerrry uncomfortable with the traditional relationship/gender roles (read: powerful older dude pulls hot trophy wife) being turned on their heads.

On top of that, could we all agree not to use the term “pussy whipped”, or any of its variants from now on (this includes making the whip-crack sound vocal sound effect), please?

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